Those who have the ball all the time
What’s it?
Whether at work and in relationships
when something goes wrong
to report
to consult
to ask
Many people give someone the problem
they are having to solve it
（This “Problem” is expressed as a ball）
Maybe they can’t handle the problem themselves
and it’s easier to give the ball to someone
Then
they must have the ball(problem) with silent
I think so
Example
Manager A
He is the manager of one company
There are 5 members
Member B
He is a member of the team of A manager
He is in trouble
Director C
He is A and B’s boss
One day
B who had a problem approached A for consultation
Do you have a consultation?
What’s wrong?
Acutually
I only tell you
I may retire…
It’s an enbarrassing story
I’m in debt for a reason I can’t tell people…
I’ll make a decision in 10 days
so can I promise you a meeting time in 2 weeks?
I see…
If you have any troubles
what happened?
Yes…
Actually
my child had a traffic accident before
We were in debt
because we weren’t insured…
I’ve been working hard for the last years to repay
I can’t help it anymore…
But even if I quit and repay my debt
I’m still wondering what to do with my life after that…
I see
Let’s have a meeting 2 weeks later
After that…
Mr.C
Can I tell you a story?
Mr.B is in debt for a child accident
and wants to quit
because he wants to pay back with his retirement allowance
It’s not a decision yet
What??
Mr.B is?
How much does he have debt?
Mr B’s retirement allowance is about $30,000
if he quit now
Isn’t it about that?
Was he not insured??
He’s stupid
I switched insurance the moment my child god his license
So even when my son had an accident
the insurance money was rather positive
Really?
As expected it’s the director!
How was it?
Of cause
this is the fiction
Isn’t it a story that seems to be everywhere?
For company crisis management
To secure the next human resources when B quits
To help B in some way etc
Mr.A may have reported to C for that reason
But
No matter how he has reasons
It’s certain that Manager A couldn’t have the ball
Mr.B may have confided to A
when he couldn’t help but endure what he didn’t want to tell anyone
If possible
he might have wanted to keep it secret
until the meeting two weeks later
How to identify who can have the ball
That person you should trust didn’t give you important information…
In such a case
you should be pleased rather than sad or angry
That person must have protected someone’s heart
That person doesn’t even tell you that he trusts…
You can trust that person from the bottom of your heart
Conclusion
Those who can have the ball
at their own risk and mental burden can believe
Summary
Many people who can’t have the ball
prioritize “release of their heart” over “suffering of others”
We’re not family
May be obvious
Does anyone give you a lot of information?
That person is very convenient and useful for you
But
The person may even tell someone the information you give
Unfortunately
people who can’t have the ball will give it to someone right away
When you wanna gather a lot of information
people who can have the ball may not bring you the benefit of information
Because
that person prioritizes protecting someone’s heart over
communicating information to you
Moreover
while carrying their own mental burden…
Even if you tell that person your secret
that person will always have the ball
That person should be a lifelong friend
So people collect balls of various sizes toward that person
I wanna be such a person
Bye
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