「How are you feeling now?」（Way of thinking）
What’s it?
“Listening ability”
- Positive
- Empathy
- Self-mutch
The above are the three major principles of listening
The more I try to listen to people
the more difficult I realize
Perhaps listening is a eternal theme for humankind
isn’t it?
But there is a very effective magic word that can bring the three together
“How are you feeling now?”
The reasons
What kind of scene is “listening” effective?
When the other person is full of motivation
When the other person is full of energy
When the other person is happy
→”Listening ” is not often called
(Of course, it must be vali)
Because
the other person has the energy
to continue a bright…fun…happy time
oh his own
That’s right
For counseling and listening
the other person gets well and looks at the future
That’s one goal
That means…
When the other person loses confidence at work or school
When the other person is worried about relationships
When the other person has something sad
→”Listening” makes the person’s heart a little easier
Trouble is a state in which there is or thinks
that there is a gap between “my ideal” and “reality”
I think the trouble is that the “heart(feeling)” is feeling the pain of a gap
“How are you feeling now?”
From the moment they were asked
the person who was worried began to ask themselves
“How do I feel now?”
Your own words that appear after that
may be the most necessary words to spend well
How to use “How are you feeling now?”
Will be up soon
Conclusion
“How are you feeling now?”
This is the most important question for that person
People are encouraged and motivated
by their words that come out after asking themselves
Even if you can’t change others
Even if you can’t change the situation around you
you can change your behavior and way of thinking
「”How are you feeling now”
This question is a great opportunity for the person
to look at their own thoughts
Summary
“How are you feeling now?”
Have you ever been asked this?
Probably most none
When listening to people
When, Where, Who, What, Why, How
It’s normal to grasp the contents mainly on 5W1H
For example
if you’re listening to the story of a person
who is worried that “the salary has decreased…”
Do you mind “How much did you originally get
and how much did you reduce?”??
But the person who is in trouble may be
“I’m worried about my life”
“The pride has been hurt”
The thing I wanna talk about most
must be in that person’s feelings
Of course
I’m also most concerned about
“How much is the salary originally?”
But even though I’m worried
I think it will ease the person’s heart
by asking “How are you feeling now?”
without asking it
bye
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